In a tradition which is becoming increasingly outdated, men who are looking to propose are often expected to ask their future in-laws for permission to propose to their significant other. While there’s technically nothing binding about this “yes or no” question, I suppose the idea is that it’s nice and generally important to have your partner’s parents on board with the idea of your marriage.
A recent AskReddit thread wanted to know about the people who don’t get a “yes” from their future in-laws, though. Did they still go through with the proposal and the wedding? Has their marriage been a happy one? Did they parents ever apologize? The answers run the gamut, but as far as I can tell: parental support is nice to have in a marriage, but, depending on your relationship with your parents, it’s far from totally necessary.
12. DamageInc51 didn’t get a “yes,” but things worked out in the end:
My wife’s family were strong southern Baptists and I was some military guy who came from a broken home. The dad instantly didn’t approve of me. Over the course of a year we continued to date and I did my best to be a “suitable” boyfriend. Orders came for me to go to Afghanistan and I knew I was in love and she was for me. I brought her Dad out to breakfast and asked his permission. He flat out said no because I was not a good enough Christian. I looked at him and told him I didn’t give a shit what he thought and we are going to go through with it. Things got real ugly and he went ballistic on my wife. He was a verbally abusive person. After the dust settled, we had a small $500 dollar wedding. None of our family was there. We invited six of our good friends and had Jimmy John’s cater. Today is 7 years of our marriage and we are as happy as ever. I married the best women in the world and her dad has apologized about the whole ordeal. Her family loves me now and it all worked out in the end.